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Today I’m going to wax philosophic more so than funny, so you are forewarned.  A couple of days ago a very good friend’s girlfriend died in a car crash.  People say that death is part of life but to be more accurate it is the end of life, not so much a part of it.

Less than a year ago my wife passed away, far too prematurely.  The older one gets the more people around you die.  You would think you would start to get used to it but that certainly hasn’t happened to me.  To me it still sucks.

I do have full certainty that a person , spiritually, does move onto another life after he or she dies.  You get a brand new start on things.  So, ironically, death affects the living much more than the ones who die.  My friend’s girlfriend’s death will affect so many people as do most deaths.  She was my friend too, by the way.  Three girls lost a mother.  Parents lost a daughter.  Aunts and uncles lost a niece.   My friend lost a lover and friend, etc. etc. and the beat goes on.

The senseless recent shooting in Tucson, Arizona will affect many people with six deaths and many injuries.  I’ve heard rumors that the shooter was on psychiatric drugs as is the case in almost all this kind of shootings over the last many years.  Has anyone taken note that this kind of mass shooting almost never took place 30 or more years ago.  Sadly, with the increase of psychiatric drug use they are almost becoming commonplace.  I think it would be more fitting if the killer is going to shoot someone that they should at least make it just the psychiatrist who got them onto the drug in the first place.  That might be too just for this insane planet, but one can always hope.

The good news is it is very possible for those who have lost loved ones to move on and still be happy.  It happened in my case.  I am in a wonderful new relationship now, very much in love.  If you’ve read my posts in the past you’ve seen some that she and I have written together, and from the responses I’ve gotten those articles are very popular.  You will see more and I certainly look forward to that myself.  We have very good chemistry (Hubba, hubba, if you get my meaning.   What the heck, I had to let loose a little bit here.)  It doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten my former wife or that I still don’t love her or miss her because it is very true that I do.  But to dwell on what one doesn’t have won’t bring that person back and it will only serve to bring those around you down too.

Life is made of many experiences, death just happens to be part of those experiences.  Okay, okay, I’ll change my former stance that it is not part of life, but I do so under protest.

So, to my friend, continue to love her but don’t dwell on the loss.  Put that experience in the past because that is where it is.  Move onto the present and create the future.  Who knows, many lifetimes down the road you may meet again and create the love you recently had with gusto all over again.

But still, death does suck… just sayin’.

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I have to take a break from writing a humor article this week.  If you came here expecting a laugh I apologize but please indulge me for one week as my wife passed away yesterday.

We had a special marriage, 28 years full of love.  She was my wife, my true love and my very best friend ever.  She was my biggest fan and I was hers.  There is nothing she wouldn’t do for me or me for her.  We truly had a unique relationship.

We had so many great friends together.  I’m so used to hearing us referred to as Tracy and Steve, or Steve and Tracy, or Tracy and that big idiot.  Whatever they said the reference was as a tandem and that’s what we were.  We were a team and nothing could stop that, not even death will do it, as she will always be in my heart.

Sorry, I have to take a break because my eyes are leaking all over my keyboard and the screen is hard to read…okay , I’m back.

Tracy was a wonderful being who touched so many people with her loving and caring personality.  When someone called her in need of help she’d usually have their problem solved before the end of the conversation.  Individually she had a many, many friends who are now as upset as I am, but we’ll recover because that’s exactly what she would want us to do.

She was much more than just problem solver though.  She was a giver and a creator of life.  When our daughter became of age to start into school Tracy was not satisfied with the public school system.  So she got involved with a private school to have our daughter go to, to ensure she would get a quality education in a safe environment.  In short order she was running the school and under her it flourished.  To many of the children she was like a second mother.   To some of them a first mother.

Her school was a big part of her life and she ran it with aplomb for 15 years.  Our daughter graduated from the school and she turned out to be a wonderful kid and now a wonderful adult.  With the mother she had it gave her a great head start and it wasn’t likely to turn out any other way.

Tracy was very successful in every endeavor she took on.  She had a unique ability to put on the blinders and make miracles happen out of literally nothing.  She did it many times.  Her next goal was to write children’s books.  She never got to do that but I can guarantee you she would have been good at it.

If it appears I’m gushing over her it’s because I am.  I already told you we were each other’s biggest fans.

She had a great sense of humor (I don’t say that just because she laughed at my jokes) and was so much fun to be with.  Whenever I wrote jokes or articles for this web site she was always the first to see them.  I don’t know that I ever got a truly objective opinion because she would laugh even if she didn’t get the joke but I surely appreciated the support.

Just as she was a success in this life she will go on to her next life and be successful in that one too.  She loved to organize things, it was her forte.  While I’m not worried about her moving on and doing well it would comfort me to know where she is.  So, if you see a young girl in a couple years with all her toys lined up and very efficiently organized that very well could be Tracy.  I’d appreciate it if you’d let me know that you found her.

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